“Writing helps me think,” is another favorite quote I find myself repeating, this one from Dani Shapiro. I have learned so much about what I cherish about being a psychotherapy in writing A Starving Madness: Tales of Hunger Hope and Healing in Psychotherapy Gurze Books, 2002 about the complexity of parenting after divorce, including my own, (in Befriending Your Ex After Divorce: Making Life Better for You, Your Kids and Yes Your Ex New Harbinger Press, 2012 and about the importance of acknowledging ambivalence and the complications of all relationships in my latest book, The Girl in the Red Boots: Making Peace with My Mother, She Writes Press 2021.